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I really hated school when I was a kid. At the time I just thought it was because I was weird. As I got older, I realised that there were a whole lot of us who were weird, and that really helped.
I have a very short aural attention span, so teacher monologues were a real problem for me. Luckily, I tended to tune out around the same time as my friend Lisa, who had a major fidget issue, and we whiled away many pointless classroom hours passing each other notes or constructing complicated paper games or, as we got ever nearer to our release date, feigning death spasms until we were thrown out and could go and sit peacefully outside.
Unfortunately, the school system was what it was and we could do little but jostle along in it until it was time to leave. I bunked a lot. I am queen of the ûber complicated doodle. But mostly, I remember the tactile rising panic of an after lunch double period of Geography, with a droning teacher, a prickly, sweaty uniform and absolutely zero interest in what she was talking about. Remember that feeling? Remember wanting to rip your skin off and run screaming into the corridor?
"No," says Andreas, who is lying peacefully beside me while I write this on my laptop, reading a tome of a book called Collapse: How Societies Choose to Fail or Survive. "I loved school. There was so much to learn. So many opportunities!"
Okay, clearly my theory isn't rock-solid. There's weird and then there's weird.
Whatever. My point is that there are so many millions of children out there who are stifled by the tenets of the traditional school system, but have to stick out twelve whole years, usually losing the awe and wonder they came in with… simply because we have no alternative.
Do you really believe in traditional schooling?
Because let's face it, how many of us actually BELIEVE in traditional schooling? Let's have a little test: Who out there thinks that:
a) A 6 year-old should were a collar and tie.
b) Getting answers wrong is worthy of punishment/ridicule/humiliation.
c) You should be friends only with children the same age as you.
d) A 10-year-old should be told she is "The top of the class!"
e) A child should have to do hours of homework in the evening, after spending an entire day at school.
f) Actual alarm bells should sound when you need to change your focus from Maths to English. If you can't swap quickly and quietly, you have a problem.
I could go on forever. I personally have chosen a Montessori primary school for my sons, where they learn at their own pace, in classes which span three year groupings (3 to 6 years old, 6 to 9 years old, etc).
But what I'd like to know is, what do you think about our school system? Would you ever consider alternative schooling options like Montessori or Waldorf, or even home schooling? Is cost a prohibitive factor for you? Or am I missing the point here?
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| I hear you Sam! And I agree wholeheartedly with b and e!! But there are valid reasons for some the rest - a) the collar and tie forms part of a uniform that teaches them about unity within a school. Pride in it's colours and clothes, not to mention pride in their appearance. (As opposed to sloppiness) c) As a child, playing and interacting with peers (of your age) is part of development. There's nothing stopping kids becoming friends with kids of other ages either. d) Hard work is rewarded and achieving top of the class should be something to be proud of! I think the problem lies more in the motivation behind it - whether parents are pushy etc.. e) Life is all about switching focus from one thing to the next. We deal with it all the time and especially once you have a job, kids, husband, social life, etc. A child pshycologist friend of mine once told me that Montessori schools are brilliant for certain kids only. Please don't forget the children that NEED the discipline and focused outlook that main stream schools have. I know if I had been in a Montessori school I wouldn't have thrived at all.. I would have spent my days doing whatever I felt like! | ||
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| Adam on 01.08.2007 at 15:16 |
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| Hi Sam, Each child is different and a schooling system that suits one particular child, will not necessary suit another. My nephew for example, needs to be told what to do and when to do it. He likes the traditional schooling system with its conformity, rules and strict routine. He is happy knowing what comes next! He is also very sporty and loves the variety of sports on offer in traditional schools. My daughter on the other hand is very creative and becomes bored easily. I have considered the Montessori and Waldorf options, but I feel that she is a quick learner and I would like her to try out a mainstream school first to see how she copes. If she is unhapy then we can look at an alternative school system. My friend's daughter recently moved to a Waldorf School. She was very unhappy in mainstream school and she was starting to develop strange social behaviours. She is extremely happy now at her new Waldorf school and has not looked back. I feel it is up to the parents to investigate each type of school system on offer, and because parents should know their child the best, match their personality types with the school that would best suit the child. Within their budget of course! Teachers, principals and educational psychologists can always be consulted if necessary. So there you go, my 10 cents worth! | ||
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| Cara on 01.08.2007 at 15:40 |
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| Hi Sam I agree wholeheartedly with you. Can you think of one single thing you learn at school, apart from how to read and write, that helped you in your career at all! I think not. With the internet today who needs to learn all those dates and things - just look it up! We are in our second year of home schooling our two girls. Admittedly i have cheated a little and got someone in to do the teaching but she has had to conform to what i want for my kids which is great. My oldest daughter bought Shakespeare's complete works with her own pocket money when she was 14 and our 8 year old daughter now loves to study that with her. That wouldn't happen in a mainstream school. My oldest daughter is currently doing a project on setting up her own restaurant, she's a whizz at putting together power point presentations, is writing a fabulous fictional fairy tale and is comfortable standing up and presenting workshops to groups of teenagers. The one subject she loathes is maths so that's been taken out of her learning. At the end of the day 99% of kids are forced to learn advanced maths that 1% of the kids are going to go on to use - rather unfair. My kids have been exposed to the teachings of The Secret, Steven Covey, Robert Kayasaki and many more. They have learn to get along with kids of all ages when we have home schooling get togethers. Let's face it, how often do we get to work with people the same age as us? I think not! Anyway, let's hope the school system starts to realise that there is more to being a great human being than just academic achievement. | ||
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| Monique on 01.08.2007 at 16:10 |
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| Hey Sam, I too agree with what you've said and before I got to the bottom of your article was thinking of suggesting the Montessori schools. I do however agree with the child psychologist that Adam quoted a friend of mine had her daughter and son at Montessori, the girl hated it, the little boy thrives! So I'm afraid it will still be a bit of trial and error. I don't have my own kids yet but I am all set to enrol them at Montessori on the very day they are born! | ||
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| Lynn on 01.08.2007 at 16:20 |
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| There are schools and schools. My girls go to a mainstream government primary school (Sun Valley Primary), with a very forward thinking, revolutionary principal. Their uniform consists of shorts and t-shirts in summer, and tracksuits in winter. On their feet, they can wear nothing, flip flops, crocs, or takkies. This year, the school is trying out single sex classes for the gr 1 - 3's, (i.e. 2 girls classes and 2 boys classes per grade), and so far it's a roaring success. The school has a 1km walking circuit, and when the teacher sees the kids drifting off in class, she can send them out on to the field to have a run around the walking circuit. In class, they work in groups of 4, and very seldom sit and listen to long monologues. We are amazed that a government school can do this (it wasn't like this in my day!). A government school like this works for us, home schooling wouldn't. If we didn't have this option, I certainly would have considered Montessori. I think schools generally need to think outside the box a little more, Sun Valley is certainly making the attempt. | ||
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| Philippa on 01.08.2007 at 17:24 |
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| I didn't enjoy school either, but education was 'free' back in the eighties, so we walked the two kilometres to get to school. I would home school my kids if I could afford it. In fact, if I could be a stay at home mom, I would home school them myself. Thats not economically viable either. My three and half year old is in nursery school. She is in a 3-5 year old class. Her best friend is a 5 year old little boy named Michael. She loves to play with the older kids. So far so good. She learns and interacts much. My concern would be when she goes to 'big school' Too much pressure for 6 year olds these days, from what I hear of other mothers' stories. They even get homework! It wasn't like that when I was in class 1. I even remember coming home from school one day, to watch the entire royal wedding of the prince and princess of Wales. Thats what we did after school in grade 1 - not homework! But sometimes circumstances dictate the form of education for our children. Pity. | ||
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| Jen on 02.08.2007 at 08:26 |
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| I thoroughly enjoyed all the things we were taught at school along with all the extra murals. The huge problem was the fact that a few so called "popular" kids could make school hell for everyone else. Schools have become show grounds for popularity and the majority of children who don't fit the ridiculous mould are marginalised. It's an unfortunate attitude that needs to be changed. | ||
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| Jae on 02.08.2007 at 10:55 |
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| I cringe at the thought that my daughter has to go to grade 1 year after next. The pressure these kids are put under is unbelievable. What I don't understand is why kids get pressurised so much when there are schools in SA that don't have electricity, running water or qualified teachers. How does a child of illiterate or semi-literate parents cope with the projects they are given? What happened to the three R's? I'm not saying they shouldn't be stimulated, but goodness, a child's job is to play, not to work a full day. And don't even talk about sports. I suppose the official line would be that sports should teach the kids about teamwork and enjoying physical activity. In reality it is all about competing and winning! So I have a kid with balance problems who is not terribly well co-ordinated - will she end up sitting on a bench at every match like I did? How will this teach her to love sports? Sorry about the rant and rave. I need to start investigating the alternatives. | ||
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| Heila on 04.09.2007 at 17:22 |
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| I am in the situation where both my children are at one of the top public schools in the city we live in. It has a fantastic reputation and my daughter (the eldest child) has thrived there. She is a very disciplined little girl, quiet and studious, and she needs the structure they provide. My son on the other hand, is having tremendous problems. He is a busy little boy, but not 'naughty' or 'defiant'. He just struggles to sit still and conform to what is expected of him. As a result, he is miserable and often does not want to go to school in the mornings. I am now investigating taking him out of this school and trying something different - like Montessori - however the costs involved are astronomical. DOUBLE the fees I am currently paying. And, with a single income, this may prove to be the straw that broke the camels back....where too from here????? | ||
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| Bernadette on 05.09.2007 at 10:51 |
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| dear Sam, i am really sorry to hear that your time at school was not great. However I think we really all need to ask ourselves if we really appreciated the fact that we actually were sent to school and didn't have to work as child labourers. Which is still very common in the world today. Anyone who attends school and whos parents/carers offer the support should be told at a very early age that education is a priviledge and not a right. The world is a very competitive place and our children should realise that if they do not go to school and give it their best then what type of future will they have, escpecially as not all of us are lucky enough to have millions in the bank.... Education is an ongoing process. I have two young girls and am nearly 40 however I still am educating myself. Don't blame the school or the subjects just be grateful for the education you are receiving......... | ||
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| lorraine on 24.01.2008 at 09:52 |
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