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3 March 2008
Love is truly blind

 
Love really is blind, at least when it comes to looking at others...

 
The team at the University of California Los Angeles and dating Web site eHarmony found that college students who reported they were in love were less likely to take careful notice of other attractive men or women.

"Feeling love for your romantic partner appears to make everybody else less attractive, and the emotion appears to work in very specific ways in enabling you to push thoughts of that tempting other out of your mind," said Gian Gonzaga of eHarmony, whose study is published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.

"It's almost like love puts blinders on people," added Martie Haselton, an associate professor of psychology and communication studies at UCLA.

Gonzaga and Haselton asked 120 heterosexual undergraduates in committed relationships to examine photographs of attractive members of the opposite sex from an eHarmony Web site.

The volunteers were asked to choose the most attractive photos, and write an essay either about their current romantic partner, or the subject of their choice. While writing, the students were asked to forget the "hotties" from the Web site, but told to put a check in the margins if they did happen to think of the attractive photos.

The volunteers who wrote about their partners were six times less likely to admit to thinking of the attractive others than volunteers who wrote about random subjects.

And later, when asked to recall the cuties in the pictures, the students who wrote about their lovers remembered fewer details about the physical appearance of the attractive strangers.

"These people could remember the colour of a shirt or whether the photo was taken in New York, but they didn't remember anything tempting about the person," Gonzaga said.

"It's not like their overall memory was impaired; it's as if they had selectively screened out things that would make them think about the how attractive the alternative was."

Is love really blind? Tell us what you think in the comment box below.


 
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Great to know that I am not abnormal. I am in love with the most wonderful woman on the planet and other females become "just another person". Yes the article is spot on. Thanks
jaysee on 13.02.2008 at 13:04

 

I enjoy a good roll in the hay. Nuff said
John on 13.02.2008 at 15:03

 

love can see if u allow it to
CLARA DOMINIC on 14.03.2008 at 12:11

 

Love is really blind the minute you get into the relationship, you can't think of anyone other than your partner even if you can see that your partner doesn't make you happy but you will still stick to him,only to find out later that there was someone out there who was going to give you love more than your partner.I do think that we should take notice of other attractive men.
Mukelisiwe mabele on 03.04.2008 at 09:06

 


 
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