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My boyfriend and I have not engaged in sex, not that we don't want to, I find him extremely attractive, sexy and I love being with him, we spent nights making out.
We have consciously decided not to have sex this early in our relationship although we have been friends for three years, but have only started dating about three weeks ago. I want him so much and I know he wants me, but because we have other interests together also (we have two businesses together), we want to take our relationship as slow as possible. My problem is this, he is a very big man. As in he's tall, and chubby, sexy to me and up until we made out two weeks ago for the first time, I was scared to be with him physically. But since then, I must say he has pleasantly surprised me. I still feel a bit anxious, how do big people have sex with petite people. Please don't tell me I have to sit on top, cause I can but not all the time. I hope you can shed some light on this, he is such a sensual man.


Answer

SENSUALITY
As you say being on top is an option but definitely not the only one. It's great that he is a sensual man and it sounds like he is keen to explore many aspects of love making with you and realises that intercourse is only one facet of a loving relationship. Kissing, touching, massage, cuddling all offer intimacy and physical love without your difference in size being a problem. As far as penetrative sex is concerned there are many positions you can explore where his weight will not be on top of you and it can be an exciting exploratory adventure for you both. I suggest that you tell him how you feel and find a book with different sex positions that you can look at together, finding those that you think would work for you both. Side by side, spooning and doggie style are two immediate suggestions but there are many others where his size and strength will be an advantage.

- Marina Green

 
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