"I finally got into bed with this amazing guy who I assumed would devour me whole. Instead, he took off my clothes, sat on me and spent about 45 minutes tracing the outlines of my body with his fingertips without saying a word. I was hypnotised with pleasure – then he left! This made him not only totally sexy but totally sensual, which is much harder to achieve." – Andrea, 27, editor

Make her pucker up

"I had this boyfriend who would hover above me, gliding his lips over mine but pulling back the second I'd lift my head up to reach his. He'd do this over and over, almost kissing me but not quite. It was so erotic. It made real kissing much more powerful." – Elizabeth, 30, attorney

Make her feel sexy

"I'm not exactly what one would call petite and I was dating a guy who was very wiry and thin. We were hooking up and I was self-conscious because my more-than-tiny rear was quite visible. He whispered in my ear, 'You know, you have the sweetest arse'. I still reflect on his voice in my ear. And, by the way, he was well rewarded for his remark." – Rachel, 34, marketer

Make her sticky

"I came home from work one night to find our bedroom lit by candles. My boyfriend had spread a plastic painter's tarp over the bed and on to the floor and covered it with massage and baby oil. I was shocked but intrigued and couldn't believe that he'd taken the initiative. Armed with that much oil, you're able to do things that you never imagined. Trust me." – Karen, 34, sales executive

Make her melt

"After the first time we slept together, my man came back to bed with a plate loaded with four ice-cream sandwiches, two caramel ice-cream bars, a bowl of French vanilla ice cream, a pile of chocolate-chip cookies and a glass of milk. Our clothes were scattered all over the room, we were still a little sweaty and we sat naked in the centre of his big, white bed, licking biscuit crumbs from our fingertips. It was decadent and sexy and unforgettable." – Cecilia, 24, student

7 hot things to say to a woman

1. "I love your eyelashes."
2. "Sex with you just gets better and better."
3. "You look beautiful when you're sleeping."
4. "The way you dance is really sexy."
5. "You have a wonderful laugh."
6. "You're so clever."
7. "Your skin smells fantastic."