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Well, part of you wants the happiness. The other whiney people-pleaser still wants the gold star. I think traditional schooling can (in certain cases) create a co-dependant relationship where your self-esteem (and thus happiness) becomes inextricably linked to receiving positive feedback on what you do.
The real world doesn't work like that. And people don't necessarily stand back and applaud for a job well done. Suddenly, YOU need to be okay enough with what you do, how and what you achieve, and when your entire school career taught you it was external approbation that mattered, this can be a challenge.
The lesson all children should learn is that they, as they are, are enough in their own lives. The lesson all gold star addicts should learn is the same.
Having recently had a baby I suddenly no longer have the time, energy or inclination to tap dance across the ball room table shouting "look how great I am".
Instead I race to work, to work harder than I have ever done so before so that I don't feel the need for continual flagellation and apologise when I race out again at 4pm to get home before my nanny leaves.
I'm thinking of starting a group. Gold Stars Anonymous to help wean myself off the stars. Anyone want to join?
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