QUESTION

Hi Lily,

Me (26) and my husband (28) have been married for 2.5 years now and it sure has been an adventure!

One thing that I'm struggling with immensely is how often we see his parents, on average we visit/see them atleast twice a weekend and sometimes even in the week for dinner or something.

Don't get me wrong, his parents are good people and I love them very much. Although I find his mother very annoying sometimes as she treats both me and my husband like small children. They also run their household in a very old-shool 50's mindset that the woman in the house(m-i-l) has to do EVERYTHING, which I hate because I was not brought up in this way.

My husband is completely blind to the fact that we see them way to often and think I'm being selfish when I do even hint at this. I have even tried talking to him trying to tell him that it feels like he never wants to spend time with me alone, but ALWAYS includes them in almost all our weekend plans.

We don't nearly see my parents as often, twice a month maybe.

Am I being selfish about this? What can I do to change this situation or maybe change myself?

Thanks