QUESTION

My mom is about 54 years old, Things were ok when we were kids but she has become crazy as the years have passed. We are 3 brothers and 1 sister and we all can't handle her anymore, we want her to go see a doctor to see if it is her menopause but she feels it isn't that and does not want to go but I think the real reason is because she does not have the money to go and I can't help anymore cause I am already paying her rent and food every month. She gets continuous mood swings and then explodes, the next day she acts like nothing is wrong. One day I said her kitchen was looking nice and when I got home she called me and started saying that I think she is dirty and that she does not clean and it was a big fight and this type of stuff happens all the time, she makes up things that are not even there and turns it into a massive fight and she also has a huge problem with my wife and my brother's wife and my sister's husband, she always talks bad about them and it causes trouble as well. Last night I visited there and she was in a mood again and started fighting with me because I offered to take her though to my sister cause she is having a baby and she thought i was being "funny". I am the youngest and I have been sorting out the fights and trying to keep the peace for the last few years, last night I lost it, I am going grey and I am only 26. What do I do about this, I feel like I am walking on egg shells every time I am near her and I have to watch everything I say, my wife does not even want to go to my moms place anymore, I feel so angry inside it is driving me crazy...my hand has already been broken because of a fight we had in the past, all I want is a little peace and I fear the only way I am going to get it is to run away from my family and live on a small island somewhere.. all I have done for the last 10 years is sort out my families problems and I cant take it anymore. I am cracking up! Is there anything I can do for my mom to help without her going crazy because did I mention she needs to see a doctor?