Article: Lisa Sussman from True Love
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Let me start off by saying that not for one nanosecond do I recommend that you let your passion lead you into a situation where you end up having quick sex with a man you don't know. You won't enjoy it, you won't feel good about it and it could even screw up your health and the way you feel about all your sexual encounters in the future.

Now that I've got that out the way, I do give the thumbs up to a quickie within a hunky-dory relationship.

Fast, furious passion
It shouldn't be your only way of making love, but sometimes spontaneously stepping out of your usual routine is an easy way to keep sexual passion burning.

What do I mean by a quickie? Go directly to penetration. Do not waste time kissing, undressing, touching or licking erogenous zones. The entire encounter will usually involve less time than it takes to poach an egg, unless your man has an extraordinary ability to hold back.

I know that this is totally the opposite of everything you normally hear: set a romantic mood, don't rush things. After all, why hurry to get through something that's one of life's greatest pleasures? All the same, there's something to be said for forgetting the hoopla every once in a while. No hands. No mouths. No talk. Just do it. It's like being told: "I must have you – now!"

So what if he's shaving and late for work, or you're busy paying the bills? For once, wouldn't it be wild to get swept off your feet (or knock him off his)?

Okay, so you might not have an orgasm because it'll be so quick. That's fine, as long as you enjoy yourself. Sex isn't a competition based on a points system. Variety adds a quality of its own.

Of course, it's a completely different story if all you have are quickies. Or if you never have an orgasm. Or if he always comes too quickly. Because, ultimately, the best sex is a warm and tender encounter between two people who respect, like and satisfy each other.

So, here are the rules on quickies: