Get over him!

Get a grip and move on. Follow these tips and get over the heartbreak...

The following tactics could ease the pain when recovering from a broken heart:

  • Give yourself time to grieve over the relationship, but make a conscious effort not to let it take over your life.

  • Don't sit poring over pictures, CDs and souvenirs of the relationship. Put them away in a suitcase and replace them with new objects that hold no associations.

  • Make a point of going out to new places (not the ones you used to go to with him) and accept invitations to parties, events and functions. The sooner you expose yourself to new relationships, the sooner you'll find one.

  • Surround yourself with positive energy and treat yourself to a new hair-do, wardrobe and beauty routine. Knowing you look your best can go a long way to reviving morale.

  • Don't become bitter and boring by replaying your lost relationship over and over again to your mother/sister/ girlfriends. The milk is spilt, so it's time to stop crying. Somewhere out there is a brand-new, exciting lover who'll make that happy ending come true for you.

  • Take up a new hobby or enrol in a course that will keep your mind occupied.

  • Make sure you get enough sleep, exercise regularly and eat properly so your health doesn't suffer while you're trying to get over the relationship.

  • If you bump into your ex or someone mentions he's involved with another woman, behave like a lady. Don't start swearing, weeping or spouting vicious intimate details about his behaviour with you. Your dignity, bearing and self-control are your best allies.

  • If you're not ready to date again, don't force yourself to. Whatever you do, don't jeopardise a new relationship by comparing a man with your ex, or regaling him with the sad story of your lost love. He's not there for that.

  • If you really can't cope emotionally, don't be afraid to ask for help – see a therapist.

    - True Love


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