We already know that maintaining a healthy and happy marriage is hard. But, it becomes even more difficult when a third party is in the mix. What’s worse? When the other person ‘in the way’ is a former lover .
This reader’s husband is still in contact with his ex. If you ask me, it’s a recipe for disaster! I’m single, though, so perhaps my opinion on the matter isn’t valid.
As a result, we headed over to Facebook and asked our fans what they thought. Here’s what some of them had to say:
Petunia: Definitely, I would also be interested to know how he would feel if it were the other way round.
Starr: An Ex is an Ex for a reason! I will politely cut off his winkie and flush it.
Heather: Would not bother me too much, she is ex, I am present - no problem. Trust is everything.
Tania: Nothing wrong with being friends with your ex. Just because your relationship with that person didn't work, does not preclude the possibility of being friends. Questions like this make me wonder if I am one of the few true adults around.
Innocentia: I would start contacting my ex too, see how he feels.
Babalwa: My view is if a man is still in touch with his ex and they don’t share a child then that relationship was not over. Those that say there is nothing wrong then they are naive to think that their partners are immune to temptation especially when they are fighting. Prevention is better than cure.
Tammy: I would have no problem with it. I am still friends with my ex. While the relationship ended the friendship continues. It’s about feeling secure in who you are and bringing that security into your relationship. It’s also about growing up, leaving the high school behaviour behind you and realising that the ex is an ex for a reason, just as you are his present for a reason. Instead of getting all worked up and being upset. Be a friend, be kind and treat her with the same respect you want and deserve from her.
Debbie: This is an individual thing. Sometimes you know your partner can be trusted, but can the ex be? You don't know her agenda. Depends on why the relationship ended and who did the ending. We all suppress that little voice that tells us something is not right. Maybe she has a reason to worry.
Tshepo: Not all relationships end with a fight. If u cannot chat to your ex then you are still not over him/her. There is a reason why they broke up.
Lizzie: I don't see why he is still in contact with his ex. The only reason people should be in contact with their ex’s is when they share a child/ren with them otherwise they must stay in the past.
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