'Hey honey, unwrap this?'
Muneeba Martin looks at the unlikelihood of SA women getting their husbands to use condoms.
The Women24 2008 Female Nation Survey statistics show that 70% of married women do not use any form of barrier protection when having sex.
Is this a big deal?
Call me naive but I cannot understand why any married woman has to wear a condom with the person she shares the most intimate and sacred relationship with in the world. Isn't the whole point of getting married to drop the condom?
When mentioning this statistic to a friend, she responded: "I've been happily married for 10 years and have 3 gorgeous kids. How do I even begin to suggest using the condom to my husband? Should I buy a packet and say something like "how about we start using these?"
At that point her husband walks in (obviously having overheard the whole conversation) and, without blinking, he says: "The only reason you would suggest the middleman is if you don’t
trust me!"
Wife: "Its not that I don’t trust you, it's just..."
But she didn't know what to say.
What's happening to this world? Where are our beliefs, ethics, and morals? Do we really have to watch our backs this close to home, or is this just another way for society to make us more paranoid?
I think whether you decide to introduce "the middleman" to your relationship entirely depends on how much you trust your spouse, after all what's a relationship without it.
What do you think? And who's responsibility should "the middleman" be? Please let us know. Have your voice heard and join the debate by making use of the comment box below.
- Women24