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Posted by: Dawn Maepa | 2004/02/06

Q.

Dry vagina during intercourse

During intercourse I become dry resulting in very painful experience. I know that one can use KY-gel, but is there a natural way of getting rid of this problem? I would also like to know what causes it and what is the medical term for the condition.

Expert's Reply

A.

Dr Eve Dr Eve
- 2010/04/08

Women have glands on the outside entrance of their vagina's called Bartholin Glands. These glands, and other smaller glands inside the vagina, are responsible for the lubrication of the vagina when a woman is aroused. However when there is not sufficiaent arousal, these glands do not produce their juice.

This will result in your situation: dry, painful penetration. Lubrication is also inhibited when a woman has problems with hypertension, cholesterol or is diabetic. And if she's on medication such as an anthistamine that will dry up all her juices.

If you can rule out any medical factors then most commonly the reason you are dry, is because you are not being sufficiently aroused in the moment with your partner. Perhaps you have lost attraction for him, or maybe you have no desire to be sexual with him; perhaps his sexual techinique is just not doing it for you.

Often times when men insist on thrusting for a long time, this can become pretty boring for women and they loose interest and begin planning their shopping list or their financial budget. This will dry her up and lead to painful sexual play. Of course the more pain you have the less likely you will be to relax as you will be anticipating pain and thus dry up immediately. The solution is to know what will arouse you and teach your man how to pleasure you in a way that will work for you. You need a lot of arousal to maintain your arousal.

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