Mrs_Miller
Need some relationship advice! Ask our resident Agony Aunt, the lovely Mrs Miller. Read more
Recent Questions
QUESTION
Hi. Married for 3 years, in the second year of marriage found out that husband was on mxit and mig, meeting up with all the young students. He admitted he was not loved by me so he did all that for love. Recently found out that he as being chatting to girls again, no meeting or antthing of that sort, just "flirting", cause yet again he feels unloved. I am ready for a divorce, cause I can't trust him ever again. He says he will contess the div and tells me he has suicidal thoughts and cries all t
ANSWER
Dear Yogie,
If your husband is suicidal he needs psychological/psychiatric help. It sounds as if he's a very confused individual. You can't fix him. Remember that. He will have to want to change. And it's not easy.
People in these situations often hold their partners hostage through guilt and manipulation.
I can't tell you whether you should stay with him or not, but what I can tell you is that a relationship is hollow and empty without trust.
Get him to a professional and remember to look after yourself too.