Charmie this is so brave and bold of you to want some coaching pre maritally. And you are right, you and you man need it. It may indeed be awkward as all first times are. But it can all be quite wonderful too. Expect some pain with penetration - but who knows, you may have very little bleeding and be relaxed enough so your pain may be minimal. What Im saying is that every one's experience is so unique. My suggestions for you-- focus on sensuality - unless you both are so horny , you just want to jump in. I am wondering how much sexual play the two of you have had as this will also influence your first time.. So back to sensuality-- smell, touch, taste , look at each other... do not be pressured into penetration until you feel ready for it.. Its really not the biggest deal. All of this sex play is a big deal-- every touch , kiss, lick is a big deal.. are you getting this??? Have a beautiful day -- and forever after..

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