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I went to a local Pakistani massage therapist for an Indian head massage. It turned into a head, neck shoulders and breast massage. His hands went into my bra but didn't actually touch my nipples. I thoroughly enjoyed it it was very erotic and I am longing to go back for more. I am even considering going to him for a full body massage. The thing is I am married and not sure what to make of this situation. My husband doesn't massage me and isn't interested in being intimate, he just prefers oral sex on him, and we go for months without making love. Is it wrong for me to want more of this?
Its "wrong" that you continue to service your husband - I hope he pays you well - and not ask for any pleasure in return- what's with this?? What's going on in your relationship ? I have to assume you are happy not making love with your husband or I have to assume the relationship is one in which you do not feel safe asking for attention, intimacy.
Fact is even if you were in a happy-ever-after marriage you might well be turned on by a stranger massaging and caressing you. This is a natural human response. This is not "wrong", rather natural healthy response to an erotic set up. Now you can understand why men love going for massage and happy endings. You are no different..
What you do with this is your responsibility. I hear you crave attention, touch and genital stimulation. First prize is to get it from your husband, or do it for yourself with masturbation- of course it will feel different with a stranger, Im not being naive. You have to weigh up benefit to risk and come up with your own solution. That's part of the joy - and burden- of being an adult: making your own responsible decisions.