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hi Dr Eve
i often find my self wanting to have sex but as soon as my husband and i try getting on it i do not get wet immediately it takes a lot of time and sometimes i end up not being aroused at all,is it possible for the mind to want sex whilst the body doesnt. some of of the times i do get wet but i do not get an orgasm we would go on and on for a long time and finally my husband will just give up and come alone. there are good times of course where i am turned and i have a few orgasims in one round. Dr Eve am i doing something wrong
You are not doing anything wrong- after all, how can one do anything "wrong" in sexuality?? Wrong, as we all know, is being sexual with children, non consensually, violently.
Your body is doing what many women's bodies do: they feel aroused in their heads but dammit, the body does not follow suit. It can work the other way around too: a woman can feel tingly, throbbing, sweating in her pants for sex, but her head has no desire!! Go figure! In your case, you ned to relax and let go of expectations of what is |normal"> work with what your body requires.. it sounds as if it needs more arousal or arousal of different kind. perhaps the kind of sex you are having is not stimulating enough for you . your responsibility is to read some erotica, read my book PILLOWBOOK : http://www.dreve.co.za/shop/books/pillowbook-by-dr-eve.html and get some fab lube http://www.dreve.co.za/shop/lubes-moisturizers-and-condoms/intimate-organics-flavoured-lube.html and definitely try out a toy or two. i suggest you try becoming organic with clitoral touch and not rely on vaginal penetration for this- it will take you forever to get this satisfaction. Mainly get rid of anxiety about your performance.