QUESTION

I am a male of 53. I spend time in bed with quite a number of ladies in my life. I believe that there are many myths about sex and women and that the church and sex therapists provide answers that very often misses the point.

If I may, I would love to discuss these experieneces with you.

I had realtionships with two women that were raped. The first was a lady of 34 years. She was a dancer in her younger years and was raped twice in her life. On one occasion she was followed by four young men after a show. They grabbed her, pulled her in a dark alley and raped her. At another time her car broke down late in the afternoon. Just before dark a man stopped to help her. He overpowered her and raped her.

The other lady was a bit older, 40. She was repeatedly abused, raped by her mother's second husband.

I always encouraged the women in my life to live their fantasies. I never tried to show jealousy or other signs of disapprovement. Both of these women wanted to relife their experiences when making love. Both of them asked for this repeatedly. Both of them experienced amazing orgasms when we "replayed" the rapes.

Please help me understand this. If I may I will ask other questions as well on a alter stage

Regards
John