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I have a problem with getting to orgasm. I have never been able to orgasm during oral sex or masturbation. I know a lot of websites and sex experts recommend masturbating and getting to know your body - but I just get really bored after a while.
During sex is the closest I've ever come to an orgasm, but it just seems to fizzle out!
I get to the point where my muscles tense and I feel like I can't go anymore - and it's at that exact point where I don't know what to do afterwards. And I guess that's my question, what do I do next?
I have a great boyfriend who is willing to try anything to get me to orgasm - so any kind of advice would be helpful!!
Stop trying so hard! Sex sounds like it has now become orgasmically driven and I don't think that is very sexy. To have an orgasm one needs to think, feel sexy . I get it that masturbation for you feels boring - you are waiting for the BIG O to happen so you are again not feeling ooh-la-la sexy.
Get sexy in your head, think of arousing situations, experiences, fantasies, images whatever does it for you. If you are fresh out of sexy fantasies then best you read some erotic literature, watch some porn, and discover what will push you over that edge. I recommend you read my book PILLOWBOOK( http://www.dreve.co.za/shop/books/pillowbook-by-dr-eve.html) This book is a self help program which will educate you and get you to expand your sexual self knowledge.