Thanks for your mail. Firstly, before I even begin to talk about fashion, I want you to dress for yourself first.

The reason why you are not getting it right, is because you're comparing yourself to other perceived "sexier" women, instead of looking at your figure and asking what you like about your body and then maximising it.

Confidence is sexy. Stop lowering your opinion of yourself just because you have more lady lumps than you would like.

Feeling more desirable starts with good grooming. Neat nails, maintained hair and great make-up - are the basis for building the sassy new you. Good underwear is an imperative. Don't go for boring old cottons just because you've gained a little more weight than you want. Get some racy reds or perky pinks in that cupboard.

Lastly, fashion. Wear fitted clothing, with a hint of femininty and a mound of sass.Start finding out what you looks good on your body, and work it honey!

This is your life, make the most of it...Don't look back on these days and regret that you wasted your time wishing you were someone else!

Regards