Like everyone else on the planet I have opinions.
And because my job is to produce content I often get to voice these
opinions on a rather large platform. I write articles every day and I
also tweet, comment on the news and other people’s work, and I post a lot of nonsense on Facebook. Most of you already know that.
you probably don’t know though, is that nary a day goes by without
someone telling me I should get fired. The reasons for this are as
varied as they are absurd. Well absurd to me, at least.
to a staggering amount of people I am either a man-hating feminazi, or a
foul-mouthed slut. Incongruously sometimes I manage to be both at the
same time. Daily I am told to be ashamed for writing or publishing
feminist drivel. I’ve been accused of being part of the problem more
times than I care to count.
I also get told to go back to the kitchen
on a weekly basis. And at least twice a day people call me names, insult my
mother, and they pity my unborn children (when they’re not assuming I’m
must be barren). Hell, Ivo Vegter has even written an entire column about my mean spirit and suggested that his friend hates me more than the men she was gang raped by.
I have never gotten suspended though.
Why am I telling you this?
Well, two FHM writers got suspended yesterday.
A public outcry broke loose after they made jokes on Facebook about
corrective rape and date rape, but worryingly there’s been a weird
Some people are calling the incident a lynch mob
(you know, that thing where someone gets brutally killed by a gang of
people without a trial.) Those who haven’t read about the influence of rape culture
on actual rape statistics are still defending and protecting the sacred
rape joke. The rest are loudly lamenting the death of freedom of speech
because apparently, if you can get into trouble for things you say then
all is lost.
Ehem. Since when did we ever NOT get into trouble
for making public statements? Companies have always fired or suspended
people for embarrassing their brands. There have always been a gazillion
random things that, if it ever escaped your piehole, would have gotten
So why is adding “making jokes about hate crimes on a public platform” to that list such a terrifying thing?
course, people can say anything they want to say. But then they have to
deal with the consequences when what they say makes people angry with
It’s that simple. It’s how the game works, folks. So put on your big girl panties if you want to play.
We all had to.