Gossip is ruining my friend
Unfair office gossip ruining your reputation? A reader writes in for advice for her friend.
Dear Women24
I am in a bit of a quandary at the moment. Some of my colleagues are accusing another of having an affair with a male colleague (both are married) and they are not afraid of saying this out loud to anyone who is willing to listen (except of course the colleague they are talking about!)
I have asked them if they have any proof and their response is that it is obvious.
In my mind, the two are just friends. I know most people think that a male and female cannot “just be friends” and I disagree. I am friendly with the colleague that everyone is talking about. I would not want anything to happen that would hurt or upset her, or the male colleague for that matter.
I feel I need to tell her what people are saying, but I also do not want to cause an upset in the office.
What would you do?
Kind Regards
B
Dear B,
First, we just have to say, you sound like a very cool person. Yay for you for not getting involved in harmful gossip!
Second, we totally agree with you – of course men and women can be friends! We know our lives would definitely be much duller if it weren’t for the many, lovely men we have as friends.
Regarding your problem, I’d suggest speaking to the gossipers directly. If you tell your friend about it, she’ll just feel awkward and hurt.
So why punish the innocent?
Tell them (or write it an anonymous letter, if you’re worried about the backlash) that it is unprofessional and deeply unfair to spread unfounded and potentially damaging stories about someone. And if they don’t discontinue the behaviour you will have to report them.
That’s what we think, but, hey, let’s ask our readers! They give great advice.
Okay guys? Help us out. What do you think B should do?