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What is expected of the Bridesmaid at a Wedding?
I found the following list of bridesmaid duties on www.theknot.com. This is a useful guide, change it according to the bride's needs and her personality. Follow these rules and you will be TOP bridesmaid of the year!
~ Offer to help with prewedding tasks, such as shopping for bridesmaid dresses/invitations/pack for the honeymoon.
~ Scout out bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewellery, and other wedding accessories.
~ Help to plan and cohost the bridal shower and bachelorette party with other bridesmaids.
~ If the maid/matron of honor isn't already handling this task, keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties and bridal showers (so that the bride/couple can write thank-you notes); maintain RSVP lists.
~ Attend the ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. (Keep abreast of all pre-wedding parties, and go to as many as possible.)
~ Run last-minute errands. On the day of the wedding, be on hand to confirm flower delivery times, meet and greet the ceremony officiant, or satisfy junk food cravings.
~ Stand in the receiving line at the bride's request.
~ Serve as auxiliary hostess at the reception by introducing guests, making sure they know where the bar is located, and inviting them to sign the guest book.
~ Hit the dance floor when the music kicks in. Dance with groomsmen during the first dance. Also, be on the lookout for toe-tapping guests who might need encouragement and/or a dance partner.
~ Purchase a wedding present perhaps with one or several of the other bridesmaids. This provides more buying power, and two heads are better than one when it comes to wedding gift ideas. Sometimes the entire bridesmaid troupe pitches in for one knock-her-socks-off wedding gift.
~ Be a trooper, no matter how stressful the ordeal becomes. Try not to complain about the bridesmaid dress, even if the color is horrendous. Be gracious and tactful.
~ Provide plenty of emotional support during the planning and on the wedding day.